Woman posing on a bed lying on her stomach, photographed by Stuart McConaghy of Elm City Boudoir New Haven CT

5 Reasons to Consider Hiring a Male Boudoir Photographer

Boudoir empowers. Boudoir emboldens and gives confidence. I believe in it to its core. While it is most common to have a woman photographer, I want to share a few reasons you should consider hiring a male boudoir photographer for your experience.

The Male Gaze

1. Men and women typically see women differently.  Through a different set of experiences, a different mentality, and a different intent/goals. What men find sexy and what women find sexy are typically different things. A woman might say something like, “That old tank top? That isn’t sexy.”  But a man might say that that old tank top is his favorite outfit on you, because he thinks you’re at your most beautiful when you’re casual and off guard.

Feedback From A Guy’s Perspective

2. I’ve been told that since my clients are getting these portraits as a gift for their husband, they want a man’s opinion and perspective.  
Me:  “Which pictures do you want in your gift album?”  
Her:  “You pick them out since you are a guy, you will know what he likes more than I will!” 
In the same vein if I needed to get a gift for my wife I would probably ask a woman for advice too. Although she’ll probably kill me for not knowing what she wants!

A Familiar Dynamic

3. A common consensus is that it can be easier for a woman to show her sexy side in front of the camera with a male photographer because it’s a dynamic they are somewhat familiar with.  


4. Playboy, FHM, Maxim, and Sports Illustrated Swim Suit Edition are mostly shot by male photographers. Boudoir as an industry is dominated by women photographers because of the perception that the client and her spouse will feel more comfortable if they are shot by a woman. Know that both male and female photographers are focusing on posing, lighting, emotion and experience. We are really not looking at ‘you’ but at creating the best images. I promise you will have a comfortable, fun and professional experience.  

Find the best photographer

5. Find the photographer who makes you feel accepted, sexy, and with a style you can’t resist.  They will leave you on cloud 9 reminding you that you are beautiful, powerful, sexy and special. The photographer should be the best at their craft and make you feel relaxed and comfortable above all.  


Stuart is the owner and photographer behind Elm City Boudoir. He is an experienced boudoir, erotica and fashion photographer residing in New Haven, Connecticut. He enjoys most things chocolate-y and mint-y, often at the same time, and is coming to terms with a recently acquired addiction to shooting video.